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There’s a rant brewing and I’ll tell you why… I’ve got an 8 year old boy who’s just started in my classes. His behaviour history over the last few years is totally appalling. It’s dreadful that he’s been allowed to behave this way for so long, but I’m not really shocked. I deal with this sort of thing every day in my job of taking on kids who are at the point of being permanently kicked out of school and successfully managing their behaviour.

Well, this particular child’s behaviour is exceptionally bad…

But that’s not what the rant’s about. He’s fine – well, not just yet, but he will be…

I’m actually ranting about the adults in this boy’s school and so many other schools I have dealings with! Those adults who’ve allowed this little boy to deteriorate into the awful state he’s now in. They’re dire and dreadful!

Good heavens, what crime have they commited? Well, rather than accept any responsibility themselves they’ve got together and written whining letters to those in a higher position, complaining about this little boy…

And their intended outcome? I would imagine they’d like this ‘problem’ to disappear from the radar and not re-appear!

Well, aren’t they right to complain? No, they’re not! Why do I think that? Because, at risk of repeating myself, children’s problem behaviour is an issue for the adults, and the reason children are behaving so badly is that adults are continually mismanaging the behaviour.

Adults have to accept that they are responsible for children’s behaviour – and those in this boy’s school have allowed him to deteriorate to this point. Whingeing and whining about a situation that adults in general have allowed to get worse and worse, isn’t going to have any beneficial impact, is it?

So, why do children behave so badly? Easy… simply because they can and they also know nobody is going to do very much about it – apart from a fair amount of whining, that is! And that doesn’t do any good, does it?

Adults need to look at their own behaviour and accept that if they want any child’s behaviour to change they’re going to have to make changes to their own behaviour first. Nothing will happen differently unless they do… It just won’t happen.

Adults, you need to get a grip! Admit it – if you don’t know how to change then you’ve got things to learn. It’s really not difficult to learn to do what adults should be doing – managing children’s behaviour!

Ok, my ranting’s done for now!

Liz Marsden is a highly experienced and successful children’s behaviour management expert. She uses her expertise to train teachers, trainee teachers and parents to manage children’sren’s challenging behaviour. Visit Liz’s website where you can download her highly recommended book and learn about her behaviour management strategies that are proved to work time after time.

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