Self-Love is Unconditional Love
We are raised with notions that love has something to do with how we express ourselves toward others. We think that when we love someone, we will compromise and make them feel better and will sacrifice ourselves and do anything for the object of our adoration. While this is true to a point, it is backwards. You can not love another until you fully embrace yourself.
The notion that you must cater to the needs of others in the name of love creates internal conflict and it is really the furthest thing from love. We are taught that we must strive to “be good” but that implies that we are inherently “bad” or that there is something we must achieve or do in order to be good and loved. We set ourselves up for lives of unhappiness and Self-sacrifice, feeling that love comes from an external source and to attain it, we must cater to the perceived needs of others.
When you can embrace yourself, exactly as we show up, (whether you like the characteristics or not) you then allow yourself to be Self-loving. You cant help whether you feel anger or love in any moment, and you cant control other people and their perceptions. All you can do is surrender control and accept yourself and what you feel in any given moment, whether that feeling is of wanting to kiss someone or whether you want to kick them. You dont have to act on anything, merely accept that you feel it and once you accept it, you can then change it if you desire. You cant change something you are unwilling to see.
When we can accept our feelings in any given moment, we eventually find that we are happy to be ourselves and can remain steadfastly true to ourselves by honoring our feelings. When we can be true to ourselves and other peoples opinions hold no power over us, then we can truly love without condition. We find that our own approval and acceptance is the only validation you need. Little by little, our attachments to how other people respond to us melt away. We find that it makes no difference whether our love is reciprocated; we love because we feel love for ourselves and nobody can take that away from us. We find that it feels wonderful to share ourselves and our love with whoever will receive it, in whatever form it shows up; whether it is helping a stranger with groceries or being present with our kids or giving ourselves over to our lover fully and completely.
When you release the need for external approval, you find your own validation and approval is the only one you need. You find that your love is expressed in everything you do and you free yourself to be completely and steadfastly true to yourself. You also find that in loving yourself, you cant help but love every aspect of your life because you see and express your own Love of Self in everything you do.
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